I won't brag about how good my childhood was because it would've been a lie anyway. What I would love to talk about is the struggle, I'm sure, all of us to some degree experienced. Whatever that was, from being bullied to falling behind in school, there are too many scenarios but all of them lead to the one end: self-doubt. Am I actually too fat? Should I wear dresses because someone commented on my boyish outfit? And don't lie to yourself, we all had the moment in our life (at least one) where we asked some of these questions or something similar to it. But who cares? This is who you are! So be YOU. Don't let anyone change you.
I remember how in my early childhood I was bullied for my looks and gosh, I wanted to do something about it...yet I didn't have enough courage. I told everything to the teacher like a child I was but she didn't care. She told me to take that in my own hands and never come squealing to her again - I am being serious. So I did. I'm not proud of it but I became one of them, bullying other children to gain respect and fear. DON'T DO THAT! Getting everything with force and fear isn't the lesson I'm trying to tell here. Going back to the story. Slowly I began to understand that something is off; something is wrong about me. I began to doubt myself even though there were no more reasons for that. So what's happened? Why do I still feel miserable!? It's simple and I'm sure you know the answer to that question. You don't want to be yourself. You think it's easier for you to be someone else just to avoid the real you.
Okay, I get it. You are scared of yourself, your true desires, the dark secrets you hide even from yourself. Well, the worst lie is the lie to yourself and you are constantly doing it. - Yes, I'm going to repeat that over and over again. Lying, in general, is bad but to yourself? Let's just say... Don't do it. Just don't. You don't have to tell all your secrets and desires to everybody but DO NOT DENY them. This is who you are and the most logical thing is to accept yourself. We all grew up in times when you couldn't do that and that; when your family expects you to be a lawyer but you want to be a musician. Well, go for it! If this is who you are then go. You will thank yourself in the future. Believe me, it's better than being miserable doing something you don't like but so much trying to fake that you do - even lying to yourself in believing that you do.
Don't let those comments, those bad moments, change the real you.
Stay safe and well!
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